PROMOTION Can you have a healthy relationship with your ex and what are the benefits? DE ivorce is often associated with acrimony, not the best basis for any sort of relationship afterwards. But if you have children together it is really worth trying to maintain a civil relationship. Chartered Legal Executive Donna Hart offers her tips to help you face the future 'together apart' in a positive way. TAKE YOUR TIME Divorce is sometimes likened to as a quickie' divorce! The case may be complex, you may be waiting for responses from third parties such as valuers, actuaries or CAFCASS. And about where each of you are going to sit? You may also eventually share grandchildren! Your children should experiencing a death; you need time to grieve and let go of your life before you separated. You will feel many emotions, from anger and fear to optimism and liberation, often all mixed in together. Counselling sessions or exercise classes can help you to feel more optimistic. When feel comfortable for both of you to enjoy the grandparenting experience. your ex may not wish to move matters along as quickly as you; it could be that they're not as prepared emotionally as you so try to be sympathetic. Ifyou're feeling frustrated, be open with your lawyer. DON'T CONFUSE YOUR CHILDREN While it is good to stay amicable, you still need to be clear about boundaries you're ready, you can start to rebuild your relationship with your ex, albeit on a different basis than before. so your children understand the reality. Many children, especially early on, want their parents to be reconciled. If you spend a lot of time together, they may hold on to false hope. There are plenty of books available that can help COMMUNICATE AND COLLABORATE If you can, communicate with each other by phone or face to face as GIVE IT TIME Divorce is not always cut and dried. When you have had a home together emails or texts can sometimes be children deal with divorce so invest in for a long time, there will be lots to sort misconstrued. Try not to let emotions spill over; keep conversations factual and stick to the point. Collaborating on decisions such as which school one or twa, Importantly, never belittle out. Often you will have become close to the other's family - some family your ex to your children - no child will thank you for this. members may want to stay in touch with your ex. Such relationships often come to an end in time; it is better that the children might go to or who they will be with on Christmas Day will they naturally peter out rather than be be really constructive for all of you. BE REALISTIC Some people manage to stay good friends after divorcing, but this is forced to stop. Check out apps like OurFamilyWizard, a tough ask and you should only which provide a central platform to connect and share family information in a secure space. This can help the non-resident parent to be involved in consider this if you really feel that it's THE PROCESS genuine! Having a healthy relationship doesn't necessarily mean going for coffee every week but it does mean you can have a pleasant exchange during handovers or telephone calls. Divorce proceedings can take longer than you think - there's no such thing the daily life of their children. FOCUS ON THE GOOD THINGS IN YOUR LIVES TOGETHER You got together because you liked cach other - don't dismiss your history just because you aren't together now. One day your children will want you both at their wedding - do you really want them worrying Family Law by Hartnel Chanof 01392 421777 enquiries@thefamilylawco.com www.thefamilylawco.co.uk Donna Hart, Charterod Legal Executve PROMOTION Can you have a healthy relationship with your ex and what are the benefits? DE ivorce is often associated with acrimony, not the best basis for any sort of relationship afterwards. But if you have children together it is really worth trying to maintain a civil relationship. Chartered Legal Executive Donna Hart offers her tips to help you face the future 'together apart' in a positive way. TAKE YOUR TIME Divorce is sometimes likened to as a quickie' divorce! The case may be complex, you may be waiting for responses from third parties such as valuers, actuaries or CAFCASS. And about where each of you are going to sit? You may also eventually share grandchildren! Your children should experiencing a death; you need time to grieve and let go of your life before you separated. You will feel many emotions, from anger and fear to optimism and liberation, often all mixed in together. Counselling sessions or exercise classes can help you to feel more optimistic. When feel comfortable for both of you to enjoy the grandparenting experience. your ex may not wish to move matters along as quickly as you; it could be that they're not as prepared emotionally as you so try to be sympathetic. Ifyou're feeling frustrated, be open with your lawyer. DON'T CONFUSE YOUR CHILDREN While it is good to stay amicable, you still need to be clear about boundaries you're ready, you can start to rebuild your relationship with your ex, albeit on a different basis than before. so your children understand the reality. Many children, especially early on, want their parents to be reconciled. If you spend a lot of time together, they may hold on to false hope. There are plenty of books available that can help COMMUNICATE AND COLLABORATE If you can, communicate with each other by phone or face to face as GIVE IT TIME Divorce is not always cut and dried. When you have had a home together emails or texts can sometimes be children deal with divorce so invest in for a long time, there will be lots to sort misconstrued. Try not to let emotions spill over; keep conversations factual and stick to the point. Collaborating on decisions such as which school one or twa, Importantly, never belittle out. Often you will have become close to the other's family - some family your ex to your children - no child will thank you for this. members may want to stay in touch with your ex. Such relationships often come to an end in time; it is better that the children might go to or who they will be with on Christmas Day will they naturally peter out rather than be be really constructive for all of you. BE REALISTIC Some people manage to stay good friends after divorcing, but this is forced to stop. Check out apps like OurFamilyWizard, a tough ask and you should only which provide a central platform to connect and share family information in a secure space. This can help the non-resident parent to be involved in consider this if you really feel that it's THE PROCESS genuine! Having a healthy relationship doesn't necessarily mean going for coffee every week but it does mean you can have a pleasant exchange during handovers or telephone calls. Divorce proceedings can take longer than you think - there's no such thing the daily life of their children. FOCUS ON THE GOOD THINGS IN YOUR LIVES TOGETHER You got together because you liked cach other - don't dismiss your history just because you aren't together now. One day your children will want you both at their wedding - do you really want them worrying Family Law by Hartnel Chanof 01392 421777 enquiries@thefamilylawco.com www.thefamilylawco.co.uk Donna Hart, Charterod Legal Executve